On Monday August 12, 2024 around 9pm the lives of Delaney and Jillian forever changed. They lost their parents in a murder-suicide committed by their father. They were also each shot multiple times during the incident, both surviving with severe but survivable wounds.
Their father was a reserve Police officer for 20+ years who had recently retired in May from being a reserve for IMPD. At home there were struggles with his mental health and domestic violence. For this event we want to help bring awareness to Police Mental Health and Domestic Violence, per the family’s request.
Ashley’s brother, Dak Sego, would like to share some words about his sister and nieces:
”Ashley had a heart of God’s love towards everyone, and she showed that through her life and in how she raised her girls. She always had a smile on her face and wanted the best for her girls. Jillian and Delaney had the perfect example of a mom that loved them as God loves them. They are strong and will persevere through this tragedy with God , their church, family, and friends gathered around them.”
Jillian and Delaney are now facing life in an unimaginable way. IndyHoodRats would like to help this family as much as possible. We are doing this “Cruise-In for Ashley Nolan” to help raise funds for Jillian and Delaney so that money is never a stress they have to have on their plate. Dak Sego has been an IHR Customer for a long time and has been a great friend to us as well, so we want to show him that his automotive community stands with him and his family during this incredibly difficult time. We also want to help them with raising awareness for the very things at the heart of this tragedy….Police Mental Health and Domestic Violence.
Come hang out at SILO Auto Club and Conversancy, grab a drink and some snacks, talk with the family, talk with fellow automotive enthusiasts, and enjoy some amazing vehicles that we will have on-site! Let’s show this family that we are here for them!
To donate directly to their GoFundMe (verified as official and run by the family), go HERE.
Police Mental Health Awareness
Our Police are the warriors on the frontlines here at home. They see more than you can even imagine, and do this day in and day out. For years there was a stigma around Police struggling with mental health. Police were afraid to speak up about the mental struggles they were having for fear of losing their job, appearing weak, and/or being treated differently at work by their peers or superiors. Only recently has there been a change of treatment, and options, for those admitting they’re struggling to process the traumas they have witnessed in the line-of-duty. In many cases this recent change of handling their work-traumas has come too late.
Mental Health for Police needs to be a top priority and focus, beginning even at the Police Academy. All agencies need to have resources readily available to every officer, free of cost, and without punishment or loss of income.
Through legislation there can be some mandatory changes made, but each agency also needs to work to better implement these actions urgently. Every day that passes without these mental health resources being available to police is another day of heightened risk. Together we can all help speak up and out about this topic to get our legislators on-board to push mandates for mental health resources. And together we can all help speak up and out about this topic to garner the attention of the Admins at local police departments to get these FREE services setup to be available to every officer without a loss of income to the officer, and without being treated differently.
To read about how the government is currently working to assist with Police mental health, read HERE.
To read about Mental Health Awareness, read HERE.
Domestic Violence Awareness
Domestic Violence is a topic that tends to get talked about a minute too late for those living in it. Victims tend to be fearful of speaking up about it because it can put them more at risk for the violence. Together we can talk more openly about it and check on people, creating safe spaces for them to openly talk about their situations, encourage them to remove themselves from the dangerous situations, and also help them see that they deserve better.
From the “Domestic Violence Awareness Project” website:
”Domestic violence is best understood as a pattern of abusive behaviors–including physical, sexual, and psychological attacks as well as economic coercion–used by one intimate partner against another (adult or adolescent) to gain, maintain, or regain power and control in the relationship. Batterers use of a range of tactics to frighten, terrorize, manipulate, hurt, humiliate, blame, often injure, and sometimes kill a current or former intimate partner.
Domestic violence, also known as intimate partner violence, is a serious and widespread problem. In the United States, 1 in 4 women and 1 in 9 men experience contact sexual violence,* physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner in their lifetime and report negative impacts such as injury, fear, concern for safety, and needing services (CDC, 2017). Domestic violence can happen to anyone regardless of employment or educational level, race or ethnicity, religion, marital status, physical ability, age, sex, gender identity, or sexual orientation. However, the burden of domestic violence is not shared equally across all groups, with women and many racial/ethnic and sexual minority groups being disproportionately affected.”
If you are experiencing domestic violence, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or go to thehotline.org. All calls are toll-free and confidential. The hotline is available 24/7 in more than 170 languages.